Two questions you need to know to get unstuck.

Have you ever been in such a deep funk that you just can't seem to get out of?  A couple weeks ago I found myself in a downward spiral of negativity. I felt empty and then also a little frustrated that I was feeling that way.  A lot of terrible things had been happening in the world and it was really making me depressed--like hopeless and depressed. I literally cannot afford to be uninspired as being creative is a major part of my job description. Several days of this went by and I realized that even though I kept trying to get to the "root" of the problem I was only going deeper and deeper into this sad and frustrated state.  I kept asking myself things like, "Abby, what is making you feel like way?"  and, "Abby, why are you sad?" I thought these questions I was asking myself were going to help me pinpoint where this feeling was coming from but instead I just kept thinking of more reasons I could be sad. It was the most intense apathy I had experienced in a long time. I was starting to get desperate for a fresh breath of positivity but I just felt like I kept hitting a brick wall.  I finally decided that enough was enough and maybe I was trying to hit this thing from the wrong angle.  Einstein says the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. The feeling of insanity was beginning to get overwhelming so, I went back to the drawing board and started asking some better questions. My first question to myself was,

"Abby, do these sad feelings belong to you?"

The answer to that question is an absolute, undeniable and resounding NO! They are not mine.  So then the next question came naturally,

"If those feelings don't belong to me, what feelings do belong to me?

Just thinking about the feelings that do belong to me instantly felt lighter: happiness, joy, love, peace, restfulness, lightness, freedom, inspiration, etc. It was then that I finally was able to disconnect myself from the frustration and step into a better mental place. Shortly after this breakthrough it's like my inspiration highway was open again--thank goodness! There is just nothing worse than being trapped inside your own mind.  

Have you ever been stuck? What has helped you get out of your emotional funk?

Thanks for stopping by, yall.  Until next time!

With all my love and positive vibes,

Abby

Abby in a nutshell

Good morning, all!

I have a favorite time of day. I don't shout it from the rooftops usually because a lot of people find it slightly annoying—but I just can't help it. My favorite time of day falls between 6:00am-10:00am.  I get a little sad when those hours are coming to an end.  I love being ready early enough to have a quiet moment on my own couch or out at a breakfast place in town. There is something about the morning sunlight compared to the afternoon/evening sunlight that makes me feel a little more loved or something. If you haven't tried it--you totally should.  

ANYWAYS....... I thought I'd start out this new blog by putting myself out there a bit. First of all, my name is Abby. I live in Houston, TX with my husband, Chris, our 2.5-year-old Norah, and our French Bulldog, Celine.  I'm a stay-at-home mom/professional hairdresser who works on-location.  I have been doing hair since 2008 (well really since about '01 but legally since '08).  And I think my job is really cool.  Who else gets to go around making people feel hotter for a living?? And get paid for it?? However, I didn't always know I wanted to be a hairdresser.  I actually started out pursuing ministry in a little practical ministry school in the Rio Grande Valley.  Though ministry in a church building didn't turn out to be my favorite thing, I'm thankful it transplanted me to Texas (Illinois native) where I realized winter is literally from the devil and one doesn't actually have to go through that b.s. yearly. I spent my first five hairdressing years in the salon--learning, and using precious, unknowing clients as guinea pigs (do an apprenticeship first, young hairdressers!).  Then when our daughter was born in 2013, the opportunity to work on-site presented itself. I jumped right on that horse and never looked back.  Working for myself has been one of the most rewarding decisions I've ever made and it has kept me home with our daughter that I'm slightly addicted to (more on her later). So, that sums up about the last decade or so for me.  I'm getting really excited to share with y'all some of the ups and downs of working as an on-site hairdresser, some of my favorite people/tools of the trade, and probably a lot of other randomness like about how to have no friends by being a morning person! See you tomorrow!

Thanks for stopping by!

With all my love and morningness, 

Abby