Two questions you need to know to get unstuck.

Have you ever been in such a deep funk that you just can't seem to get out of?  A couple weeks ago I found myself in a downward spiral of negativity. I felt empty and then also a little frustrated that I was feeling that way.  A lot of terrible things had been happening in the world and it was really making me depressed--like hopeless and depressed. I literally cannot afford to be uninspired as being creative is a major part of my job description. Several days of this went by and I realized that even though I kept trying to get to the "root" of the problem I was only going deeper and deeper into this sad and frustrated state.  I kept asking myself things like, "Abby, what is making you feel like way?"  and, "Abby, why are you sad?" I thought these questions I was asking myself were going to help me pinpoint where this feeling was coming from but instead I just kept thinking of more reasons I could be sad. It was the most intense apathy I had experienced in a long time. I was starting to get desperate for a fresh breath of positivity but I just felt like I kept hitting a brick wall.  I finally decided that enough was enough and maybe I was trying to hit this thing from the wrong angle.  Einstein says the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. The feeling of insanity was beginning to get overwhelming so, I went back to the drawing board and started asking some better questions. My first question to myself was,

"Abby, do these sad feelings belong to you?"

The answer to that question is an absolute, undeniable and resounding NO! They are not mine.  So then the next question came naturally,

"If those feelings don't belong to me, what feelings do belong to me?

Just thinking about the feelings that do belong to me instantly felt lighter: happiness, joy, love, peace, restfulness, lightness, freedom, inspiration, etc. It was then that I finally was able to disconnect myself from the frustration and step into a better mental place. Shortly after this breakthrough it's like my inspiration highway was open again--thank goodness! There is just nothing worse than being trapped inside your own mind.  

Have you ever been stuck? What has helped you get out of your emotional funk?

Thanks for stopping by, yall.  Until next time!

With all my love and positive vibes,


What I like to wear on-site: casual edition.

Over the years I've unintentionally created my own uniform for when I'm on the job.  It's pretty fun being able to actually design a look that sort of becomes your identity. 


These Paige jeans are my life. They are super stretchy and distressed in all the right places.  I have big thighs and a full booty so stretch jeans are the closest I can get to being in leggings all day and they offer a little more coverage.   

Maybe it's my age or size but as sexy as heels are to walk around town in, I just can't do it.  I still love them though so these Jeffery Campbell booties (mine are sold-out but these are just as good) are my go-to. Comfy yet sexy with a touch of 'don't mess with me' gangsta. 

The tank I'm wearing in this pic is from Vince and I can't find it (possibly because I've had it for like five years) but this one by T by Alexander Wang is amazing. It's a men's shirt but check the sizing chart and order according to your measurements. I think I might need like a dozen.  

I wear this necklace every single day of my life. It goes with everything and helps break up a boxy shirt. It could be feminine or masculine and just love it so much.  

Do you have a uniform that you've designed for yourself? Comment below and leave a pic!

With all my love and stretchy denim,