Two questions you need to know to get unstuck.

Have you ever been in such a deep funk that you just can't seem to get out of?  A couple weeks ago I found myself in a downward spiral of negativity. I felt empty and then also a little frustrated that I was feeling that way.  A lot of terrible things had been happening in the world and it was really making me depressed--like hopeless and depressed. I literally cannot afford to be uninspired as being creative is a major part of my job description. Several days of this went by and I realized that even though I kept trying to get to the "root" of the problem I was only going deeper and deeper into this sad and frustrated state.  I kept asking myself things like, "Abby, what is making you feel like way?"  and, "Abby, why are you sad?" I thought these questions I was asking myself were going to help me pinpoint where this feeling was coming from but instead I just kept thinking of more reasons I could be sad. It was the most intense apathy I had experienced in a long time. I was starting to get desperate for a fresh breath of positivity but I just felt like I kept hitting a brick wall.  I finally decided that enough was enough and maybe I was trying to hit this thing from the wrong angle.  Einstein says the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. The feeling of insanity was beginning to get overwhelming so, I went back to the drawing board and started asking some better questions. My first question to myself was,

"Abby, do these sad feelings belong to you?"

The answer to that question is an absolute, undeniable and resounding NO! They are not mine.  So then the next question came naturally,

"If those feelings don't belong to me, what feelings do belong to me?

Just thinking about the feelings that do belong to me instantly felt lighter: happiness, joy, love, peace, restfulness, lightness, freedom, inspiration, etc. It was then that I finally was able to disconnect myself from the frustration and step into a better mental place. Shortly after this breakthrough it's like my inspiration highway was open again--thank goodness! There is just nothing worse than being trapped inside your own mind.  

Have you ever been stuck? What has helped you get out of your emotional funk?

Thanks for stopping by, yall.  Until next time!

With all my love and positive vibes,

Abby

How to not be afraid of updos.

 

I know a lot of hairdressers that would rather eat dog food than do an updo on a client.  There is something about the unknown when you see an updo scheduled on your books that makes your stomach turn in fear.  I was that person for years until I realized that it's the easiest way to be an on-site hairdresser. Sure, there is a confidence that comes with doing them for awhile, but it is honestly super easy.  I probably shouldn't even be saying this because now you know I'm just a lazy person who can charge money for literally being lazy. Here are just a couple keys I've learned over the years on doing updos that will make your clients so happy and keep you in business.

  1. Make the wand do the work. This is an over-generalization but when it comes to updos, and more specifically wedding hair, even just a little bend in the hair can make the difference between a perfect updo and a pitiful one. I curl probably 90% of my clients hair before pinning it up. The curl leaves a much softer look and gives those pins some traction so they don't slip out.  
  2. Take it in sections. Many clients will bring you a picture of their desired updo. I have been handed some of the most intensely braided/twisted/crazy pictures of hair that have made my head spin.  This is normal, but not necessary.  First, find out what the client likes specifically about that picture.  They may like a part of it that you didn't even notice while you were being distracted by the swirly-whirlyness.  Most importantly, look at the style in sections. When broken down, you will notice that maze of design could be merely a teased-up bun interwoven with a few simple braids.  
  3. Smile often.  When I have a new client that I can tell is not ready to hand their full trust over to me, I smile at them and I keep that smile even when I think they're not looking. Not like a psycho, but just a gentle smile that lets them know I'm not worried and they shouldn't be either.  This small gesture will ultimately make the greatest difference in your work and in winning over your client.

If you find yourself freaking-out about an upcoming bride or updo client think of these three simple keys and watch the work of your hands create amazing things!

With all my love and bobby pins,

Abby